What Is Love?

Love. It is a word used so often and in so many different ways that it has lost it's meaning. Or rather, it has not lost it's meaning, but gained so many meanings that it is now vague. It could mean so many things to so many people. It represents a feeling that words can not express. Two people can be having a conversation about love and never really know if the other person is referring to the same feeling that they feel themselves.

Some people describe love as being extremely attracted to a person's looks. There is the feeling of lust. There is infatuation. These are feelings brought on more by a person’s physical attributes.

There is the feeling of being attached or addicted to another person's company or way of being. The person loves the way the other acts and makes them feel. Of course, this is more of a personality attraction.

Funny thing about the kinds of love described above and a lot of other kinds not mentioned, is that it is usually a small step away from hate or another strong negative feeling. You know what they say; "There's a thin line between love and hate." All it usually takes to change a feeling as strong as 'love' into hate is for the person who is the object of affection to do something that does not comply with the subject’s idea of what they like.

If the physically attractive person gets fat or disfigured; they might become more repulsive to the person who loves them. If the person who is fun to be around changes their outlook on life; they might become a drag to be around. And on most people's list; there is probably an instant trigger to switch up the feeling. This would be if they feel betrayed in any kind of way.

The feelings described above are only a fraction of what is considered love. They mostly have to do with the love between couples. There is also the love of friends, family, and humanity in general. There is the love of nature, the love of self, and the love of a Higher Power. Though they all seem to be different kinds of love; there really is only one kind of love. Everything else is that love mixed with ego identification.

This one love is unconditional. It can never change to a negative feeling because it has no opposite. Love is total acceptance. A person is capable of loving everyone and everything with this unconditional acceptance. They may not agree with or necessarily even like a person on the surface level and still love them. This is the nature of acceptance.

To get much deeper on this topic and maybe even help with a relationship in your life, read What Is Really Good? and stay tuned!


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From “The Mystics of Islam” by Reynold A. Nicholson

A Sufi mystic named Ibn al-‘Arabi, wrote that no religion is more sublime than a religion of love. Love, he said, is the essence of all creeds, and the true mystic welcomes love in whatever guise it presents itself:

“My heart has become capable of every form: it is a pasture for gazelles and a convent for Christian monks,

And a temple for idols, and the pilgrim’s Ka’ba, and the tables of the Tora and the book of the Koran.

I will follow the religion of Love, whichever way his camels take. My religion and my faith is the true religion.”

C. Om said...

With out a doubt. The power behind religion and the most dominant aspect all religions have in common, is love. Love is the truth that can not be denied. Love is like silence. No matter how loud things get; it is always there and will always be there.

Thank you SS.

bometernally said...

"Love don't love nobody" That was a title of a record a long time ago by the Spinners. I finally have a better understanding of that statement. Love IS.

C. Om said...

Indeed. Love is. Thank you for the insight Bometernally.