Every Set Back is a Set Up For a Come Back

(Sept. '08 Archive)
A comeback would really not be possible if there was not a lapse in progress. Don't take my word for it. You already know this. I challenge anyone to find a comeback story or any possible success story that set backs and obstacles did not affect. It was the wide perspective of the people in these stories that allowed them to become successful.

Loss of any kind always presents us with a choice. This is a choice that we are actually always making. It is the choice of how we interpret our experience. It is the choice of whether we accept and adapt to, or resist what is.

To accept your reality is to be at peace and one with it and as a result, able to affect change with in it. It is literally to be in the present moment with the absence of egoic thought.

To resist your reality is to be in denial of it. You see yourself as separate from the situation. You would rather see a different reality and so you are not truly in the present moment. You cause yourself an incredible amount of unnecessary stress. All stress is resistance.

If you look at those who get ahead in life; you will notice that they all were experts at adapting. They knew how to roll with the punches. As a result, they were never shaken from the path to their goals. It is so ironic that many people's idea of being strong is to be immovable. In reality, the more flexible and prone to adapting you are; the stronger you are and the longer you last.

It is the set backs that allow us to see that we are not the story. Sometimes we are able to see we are the consciousness which allows the story to exist. We are not defined by the loss. We are the consciousness which allows us to notice a loss. The rough times often develop character because your true essence gets to shine through whatever has been lost.

Every set back is a set up for a comeback! Don't believe it. You already know it.


Anonymous said...

That's the second time I have heard that today....essentially to transcend belief all together in to a state of infinite knowing. Nicely said.

Yes, if we don't allow for a natural movement or an action to happen within the flow of life, then we are putting on the brakes and applying tension and discomfort to the body and mind.

Gail said...


Excellent post - and I really love how you make your point applicable, easy to absorb in 'real time' rather than some "in the clouds" introspection.

I know well of surrender to truth, reality........and yes, adapting is the key. I think though, there can be, not always, but some times a "wrestling" of sorts as I try to 'fit' in some new reality that I wish were not so. My first reaction to my diagnosis of M S was shock and denial - nor for long though and then I had to define what this new reality meant - how I would adapt and deal with it - all a period of adjutment.
Also critical in all this are times of protectiveness or defense - such as, if I sensed impending danger/threat to myself or to someone else - I would totally resist and NOT accept - but rather fight with all my might to protect. No 'going with the flow' on that. I would interrupt the flow with all the strength I had.

I truly love your writing style and the thoughts you provoke -

Love Gail

C. Om said...

*Natural Moments
Thank you. I mirror and appreciate your insight.

I find I hear of a lot of the same concepts or new info in a short time period because I am resonating with or attracting it to me. Amazing how that works.

Your enthusiasm is very appreciated. I do try to make what seems mystical to some, very logical and applicable to daily life.

I know what you mean about defensiveness. Something easy to remember when you might question if your resistance is for the best or if it will only stress you out, is the Serenity prayer. We've all heard it before, but only last year did the wisdom in it really strike me. "God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; courage to change the things I can; and wisdom to know the difference."

If you can't change it, don't stress about it because everything happens for the best. If you can change it, have the courage to do it. I am thankful now for the wisdom to apply this.:-)


bometernally said...

Great post as usual and thought provoking.

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Tao said...

I'd read this post before but I just felt like selecting my favourite bit:

"It is so ironic that many people's idea of being strong is to be immovable. In reality, the more flexible and prone to adapting you are; the stronger you are and the longer you last."

This is one of the many ideas that drew me to the Tao Te Ching. Genuine wisdom and very much not strict religion.

Val said...

C. Om, this is a really, really good post full of wisdom. Thank you.

C. Om said...

Thank you!

I feel you. Contradictions and paradoxes often carry great wisdom because of the depth they point to.

"There are no rules," is still a rule. ;-)

Thank you Val. It is the wisdom in yourself that you see reflected in me.