Be Mine

"Be mine, Valentine."
From these words alone, we can already see the dysfunction in the traditional view of romance.

The concept of possession is an extension of a person's identity. If an object belongs to you, in some way, shape, or form, it is an attachment. It becomes part of the ego identity. This is why all possessions are able to bring pleasure or pain.

Somehow, unconditional love has gotten all confused with attachment and possession. This gives rise to the illusion of a lack of love or feelings that oppose love. Love is our nature. There is no opposite or lack unless we are looking through the warped perception of the ego mind. It is only here that any loved one can be or do anything for us to feel a lack of love for them.

When we say, "Be mine," we are setting up a condition that will result in us feeling bad if it is not met. This condition says if you are mine and you stick to the concept I have in my mind of what it means to be mine, everything is great. But if you are not mine, then I will not love you and because I am still attached to you, I will feel pain. How crazy is that?

When we can let go and just love unconditionally, we are free.


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3 comments:

bometernally said...

Great post! Great minds think alike! Happy Valentine's Day is everyday, if we live our life as the love that we are made from. As you said "Love is our nature."and our true freedom.

Anne Partain said...

Thanks for this post, valuable information.

There really is a difference in what we call love when we let go of the goey stuff called love here and allow the flow that is us. Unconditional love, it's a whole different world. :)

C. Om said...

@ bometernally

Exactly! We are love. There will not be a lack unless we create one.


@ Anne

Without a doubt Anne! A whole different world of freedom without limits. :-)